Sometimes it’s hard for dads to visualize what a postpartum doula can do for their family and wonder what does a doula do? What is the value? I’ve asked the husbands of previous clients to share their experience. Dads, my job is never to replace your support, but to help everyone with the exciting changes in your family! Here, Ian Dutchak, the husband of one of my clients, talks about why hiring a postpartum doula is a great choice for any expectant family.
“Initially, I didn’t know what a doula was or what one would do when she came out to our house. However, I’m always game for whatever is best for Jess, and I knew she wanted the extra support for our second baby, so I was on board with hiring a postpartum doula. And now that we’ve had one for the birth of our second son, I see the value in it.
Jess and Ian with their sons, Bennett and Nash.
It’s like when you’re finishing a basement, and you tell yourself, “Oh, I can do this basement myself, no problem!” But once you realize how hard it is to do it all on your own, you realize, “Oh yeah, maybe I should hire someone to help me out with it!” Same kind of idea: even if you as parents aren’t struggling, any family can benefit from the extra support, and I’d recommend seeking out a postpartum doula if you’re expecting, whether it’s your first time or not.”
Read another dad’s perspective here: “Most of the time us Dads just can’t be there in those most difficult times for our wives. Even when we are there, there are just certain things that we cannot help our wives with. We do not feel the same feelings as them. We do not understand what they are going through because we are not them. They still love us but there is just no other solution to help them but to provide them with someone who knows them because they have been through it all before,” says Chris Quinney, whose family invested in their well-being with a postpartum doula.