This is the latest in a series of posts from mothers who invested in their health and well-being by hiring me as their postpartum doula for the birth of their second baby.
“Even before I was pregnant, I told Chris that the only way I would have another baby was if I had a support system in place. I wasn’t even willing to start trying until he agreed to that, and he did.
I hired Darla for a million different reasons when I was pregnant. Too many to get into all of them. The overall reason why was I wanted to find a better way to go into motherhood with two children. I wanted to be prepared and have support systems in place. Becoming a mom is intense, and becoming a mom of two amplifies that intensity. Taking care of myself was also a priority: not just taking care of the children.
As a mom, we spend so much time looking after everybody and everything else, I wanted something that was just for me.
I became a mom with my first in a community where I didn’t know very many people, and my close girlfriends were in the midst of their own motherhood transitions. My first motherhood experience was isolating and lonely. I had postpartum depression, I was unsure of myself, we struggled with breastfeeding, and I wanted things to be smoother the second time around.
And I knew with two kids, I’d have less time. Time for myself, time for your husband, time for your pets, time for my first born. So having a postpartum doula, I was able to take my oldest and my dogs for a walk, and not have to worry about a newborn pooping right up her back, for which Stella was famous, or was she warm enough or were we interrupting her nap. I could give my full focus to Hazel, who was really craving that, going from an only child to having a sibling.
Hiring a postpartum doula is a gift to yourself. It’s a kind thing you can do for yourself. This way you make sure someone’s going to look after you when you need it the most.”