If you haven’t already heard, I will be facilitating a support group for moms on select Tuesdays out of Warman Physiotherapy & Wellness. Our first meeting is this week, so I thought it would be timely to give a real-life example of what a difference a little bit of support can make.
Imagine you are a mom whose toddler has built a beautiful wall of blocks at an indoor playground, but when he comes back from a snack, another child has dismantled it. He’s upset, and you empathize: he worked so hard on that, and it’s a big deal to him. Perhaps you’ve even been in this exact situation!
No amount of empathy or “can I help you build it again?”or distraction or leaving him alone helps: he cries and cries and cries and cries. Real tears, at times screaming. To the point that you now have tears in your eyes and take a break to cry in the bathroom, because you have no idea how to make it better and you were already having a tough day. A couple moms give you empathetic smiles, one mom asks your toddler if he’d like to join them on the slide. Such little gestures that make you want to cry more, but in a good way: because these moms get it. They understand how it feels, and they want to help you.
This is exactly why mom support groups are powerful: they build us up, let us know we aren’t alone. At times we definitely FEEL like we are alone, or like we are the only person who has ever been in a particular situation, but I assure you, you are not. Somewhere, and some point, another mom has been there, and she gets it. She will cry alongside you and laugh with you at the situation once enough time has passed.
And so I hope you will join us for the Warman Moms Support Group. Motherhood can be hard, but you aren’t alone, and you were never meant to do it alone. See you Tuesday.
Who better to tell you the benefits of postpartum support than a mom who has experienced it herself? Below a mom gives feedback on her experience of having a postpartum doula.
Why did you want to hire a postpartum doula?
We wanted to hire a postpartum doula so that we would have as much support possible for mom and baby and help give them the best start possible.
Did I meet your expectations of what you had in mind for a postpartum doula?
Oh my gosh YES! You were so supportive and encouraging and having you with us as we became a family of 4 was so reassuring. It was such a comfort having you in our home and I always looked forward to your weekly visits.
You brought a calm, caretaker presence that just wrapped us up in gentleness that we so needed as we adjusted to life with a baby again.
Did anything I do stand out to you?
Well, I think that everything you did for us was wonderful. But I was always amazed at the amount of stuff that you knew, and I loved that you always had such awesome information. And if you didn’t know something, you sourced out the information. I loved that you were never pushy, just gave me everything you had and let me decide what I wanted. You were gentle and supportive in a way that was comforting and helped boost my confidence as a new mom again.
What would you say to families not sure about investing in postpartum care from a doula?
Hiring a postpartum doula is investing in your self-care at a time you may forget to look after yourself. A new mom needs just as much care as a new baby, but the new mom often gets overlooked. A postpartum doula makes sure the new mom is nurtured so that she can better care for herself as well as her new family.
You can find more testimonials from moms here.
The original recipe calls for ghee instead of butter. If you don’t have any on hand, butter works just as well. Let’s be honest: anything fried in butter is tasty. This is a good snack, dessert, or breakfast topping (a nice alternative to the peaches in the Creamy coconut breakfast barley). It is a fall recipe because of its warming qualities but good any time you crave something sweet.
- 2 tsp butter or ghee
- 1/2 tsp sweet spice mix*
- 1 large apple, cored and sliced (you also try peaches or nectarines)
- 1 tbsp raisins or chopped figs (optional)
Warm the butter and spice mix in a frying pan on medium head. Add the apple slices to the pan and stir to coat. Fry for about 2-3 minutes, stirring. Add a tablespoon or two of water to keep the apples from sticking, and pan fry for anther 2-3 minutes, until tender. If using raisins or figs, add with the water.
Transfer to a bowl and enjoy as is, or add to any breakfast oatmeal or barley as a topping.
Some fried nectarines. I would never have thought warm fruit was good but it’s perfect on cool days.
*sweet spice mix: I make this ahead of time and have on hand. Mix 2 tbsp cinnamon powder, 2 tbsp ginger powder, and 1 tbsp cardamom powder. Store in an airtight container (an 8 oz canning jar works great!).