It’s easy to feel touched out and like you have no time for yourself when you a new mom (or a mom at any time!). You have this new little being who needs you almost constantly. It can be difficult to find time to pamper yourself, even though you know it’s important to take care of you. Maybe it’s hard to find a massage therapist who is comfortable with having an infant at the appointment. Maybe you don’t want to or can’t leave the house. All of these are valid!

Have you ever considered self-massage as a solution? It’s win-win. You as a new mom get some pampering and self love, plus you get to do it on your own terms in your own home. Baby welcomed. Baby might even enjoy a massage as well (stay tuned for a post on baby massage) or a bath with you after. Our baby was the most content when he bathed with me rather than on his own. Or maybe you do it while baby is napping (though you should be, too, if you can!). Self-massage is a self-care tool I wish I had thought of sooner.

Here’s what you need: the 5 “warms”

  • Warm oil (I use organic coconut oil, but your options are vast, so use what works for you!)
  • Warm room
  • Warm bath
  • Warm hands
  • Warm heart

I run my tub first and start massaging on a towel beside the tub. There is no right way to do self-massage! I do a bit of massage while the tub runs and I finish my massage in the tub.

Here is a guide to get you started:


Experiment to find what works best for you and your family. Maybe evening doesn’t work because your baby is cranky. Who says you can’t do this in the morning or before an afternoon nap? Maybe you do it right when your partner gets home for the day.

So massage away and bask in the love hormone of oxytocin. The more loved mama feels, the more love everyone feels: oxytocin is contagious! Let me know how it goes for you.



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